Hey Mama. Every mother dreams of the perfect Mother’s Day Celebration on Mother’s Day. It’s a special day. It’s your special day, so don’t spend it feeling sad… even if you’re feeling underappreciated! Let’s fix this, today.
Why Mothers Are Celebrated
Mother’s Day Celebrations are about recognizing mothers for all that they are. Mothers are the protectors, caretakers, and angels for their children. You are the first voice they hear while they are growing in your womb and the first face that gives them comfort and calmness when they are born. As a mama, you are the one who keeps, carries, and protects your precious baby in your womb for nine months. Providing a safe haven to be nourished, loved, sheltered, and encouraged. You take care of and love your baby unconditionally without even knowing who this little being is until that special day when nature takes its course and God sends this special child into the world.
Everything you do is because of love. Everything. Every choice, every sacrifice, and every dream you ever have for this child was created from love.
Mother’s Day Disappointment
But, sometimes on Mother’s Day, it doesn’t always “feel” like you think it should. Mother’s Day Celebration: one of the only days you expect to feel gratitude and appreciation. You want to just feel seen for one day. To simply be acknowledged for all that you sacrifice and carry with you when you receive the title of Mom. For all that you are and do for the family. It can simply just pass by without recognition. Without a thank you. Without a yes, I see you. And when this happens, it hurts.
Yes, if you felt ignored by that same child or even by the father of that child, at any stage of your life, especially on the special day of Mother’s Day, it feels disheartening. Your feelings are valid. You have the right to feel sad.
But, if your acts of love fail to be acknowledged on Mother’s Day, remember that your love and worth are not determined by the actions of anyone else.
Don’t feel bad or discouraged. It may feel hard not to, but instead, focus on things that bring you the most joy and happiness.
Ideas To Boost Your Mood After Mother’s Day Celebration Disappointment:
When you’ve had a disappointing day, it’s essential to take some time for yourself and engage in activities that will help lift your mood. Here are some things you can do to cheer yourself up:
- Practice self-care: Take care of yourself by engaging in activities that make you feel good. This could be taking a bubble bath, getting a massage, or doing yoga. Whatever it is that makes you feel relaxed and refreshed, make time for it.
- Treat yourself: Buy yourself a small gift or treat that you’ve been wanting for a while. It could be something as simple as a favorite snack or a new book. Treating yourself to something special can help boost your mood and make you feel appreciated.
- Connect with loved ones: Reach out to friends or family members who make you feel good and supported. You could have a coffee date, go for a walk together, or just chat on the phone. Connecting with others can help you feel less alone and boost your mood.
- Engage in a hobby: Doing something you enjoy can help you feel more relaxed and happy. Whether it’s painting, gardening, or cooking, engaging in a hobby can be a great way to distract yourself from negative feelings and lift your mood.
- Practice gratitude: Focus on the positive things in your life and what you are grateful for. This could be something as simple as being grateful for your health, your family, or your job. Practicing gratitude can help shift your focus from negative to positive and improve your mood.
Remember, it’s okay to feel disappointed, but it’s important to take care of yourself and engage in activities that will help lift your mood. By practicing self-care, treating yourself, connecting with loved ones, engaging in a hobby, and practicing gratitude, you can help yourself feel better and move on from a disappointing Mother’s Day.
A Woman’s Worth Is Priceless
Inaction on someone else’s part does not mean that your worth isn’t significant. It simply means that others mistakenly forget to express it in ways that are meaningful to you. You should also realize that not everyone even knows how to express their gratitude and appreciation. They don’t always know how to express their thankfulness for your love, your kindness, and your sacrifices.
At the end of the day, you are still a SMOM. You are a Strong Mama on a Mission! A SMOM is what I identify myself and any woman that gives selfless and unwavering love for the advancement of another whether a child is birthed directly from you or not.
It is not possible for another soul on earth to value you or even truly know your worth as a mother more than you do.
It truly can be misunderstood and even underestimated. That is until those shoes are then filled by them too; On that special day when they become a parent for the first time.
On that day, the veil will be removed and they will see for themselves the extent of love and just how deep that love line flows. Just like it did for you.
When Dads Fail The “Mother’s Day Celebration” Exam
Mother’s Day can be a bit of a challenge for some Dads. They don’t realize that this day is EXAM DAY and it’s important that they ace the test with flying colors. However, there are plenty of dads that have flunked the Mother’s Day Celebration exam and have had to “retake” the test!
Now, let’s talk about when Dad falls short on Mother’s Day to meet your standards.
Girl, you just have to show him some grace. Know that he is not perfect. But, if you stop. Think. You will see that his love for you is shown in other ways.
Take a moment to reflect right now about all the qualities he has that you love.
-Is he a provider?
-Does he ever make you feel loved and appreciated on other days besides Mother’s Day?
– Does he make you laugh on your tough days?
-Is he a good dad to the kids?
These are just a few to consider. If you answered yes to even one or all of these questions, then you truly do have someone that values you, but may just fall into the category or group of what I like to call them: “I don’t always do the best job of telling you, but I do appreciate you” group.
He shows his appreciation for you in his work. His touch. His eyes. His smile. And all the quirky little things that brought you to him in the first place.
Remember, there is love, gratitude, and appreciation for you that runs far and wide. He just doesn’t always know the “just right” words or the “just right” actions for it. But, you can teach it.
How to Get Over A Mother’s Day Celebration Disappointment
It’s okay to be hurt. It’s okay to be disappointed. It’s okay to express your feelings about the moment. Just remember, this is a “moment” and not an “experience”. This just simply means to remind yourself that his actions on Mother’s Day or his lack thereof, should be looked at in the context of “this is what happened today” or “this is how he made me feel today” instead of ” this is how I feel every day” or ” this is how he makes me feel every day.” There is a huge difference.
It’s even better to express how you feel. But do not sleep in those feelings. Have your cry if you need to. Take a shower or bubble bath with your favorite bath salts. Have your Chamomile Lavender tea. Put on those comfy PJs that you love. Buy that favorite meal that you love. Binge-watch that favorite show or movie you have been missing out on. But most importantly, just smile and relax. From one mom to another, you are doing an AMAZING JOB!
Ideas To Help You Move On From Feeling Let Down On Mother’s Day
If you’re feeling let down or disappointed on Mother’s Day, it’s important to take steps to help yourself move on from those feelings. Here are some ideas to help you get over being disappointed:
- Acknowledge your feelings: Allow yourself to feel disappointed and acknowledge those feelings. Don’t try to ignore or suppress them, as that can make things worse. Instead, try to accept and validate your feelings, and then work on moving past them.
- Focus on the Good: Even if the day didn’t go as planned, try to focus on the positive aspects of the day. Maybe you received a heartfelt message from your child, or your partner made you breakfast in bed. Whatever it is, try to focus on the things that made you happy.
- Plan a do-over: If you feel like you missed out on something on Mother’s Day, plan a do-over. This could be a special outing with your family or a day to yourself where you do the things you wanted to do on Mother’s Day.
- Give yourself grace: Remember that it’s okay to feel disappointed, and it doesn’t make you a bad mother or person. Give yourself grace and time to process your feelings, and try not to be too hard on yourself.
When you acknowledge your feelings, focus on the good, plan a do-over, and give yourself grace, you can help yourself get over being disappointed after your Mother’s Day and move on to more positive feelings.
Tips to Avoid Mother’s Day Disappointment
No single day can determine how much you are loved and cherished.
Always remember that you are the soft spot of your children. No matter how much they misbehave or act up, there is a hidden place deep down in their souls for you.
Mother’s Day can be a highly emotional day. Sometimes, it just doesn’t happen the way you envisioned or live up to your expectations and that’s okay.
Here are some tips to consider and help you avoid disappointment next time:
- Communicate your expectations: Make sure to communicate your expectations clearly with your family and loved ones. Don’t assume they know what you want or how you want to celebrate the day. It’s essential to discuss what you expect from Mother’s Day and how you would like to spend the day.
- Plan ahead: If you have a specific way you want to celebrate, start planning in advance. You could make reservations at your favorite restaurant, plan an activity, or create a wish list of gifts you’d like to receive. When you plan ahead, you can avoid last-minute stress and disappointment.
- Take control: If you’re feeling disappointed, take control of the situation and create your own celebration. You could plan a day trip or an activity that you’ve always wanted to do. Remember, Mother’s Day is about celebrating you, so don’t be afraid to take the lead and create the celebration you want.
- Reflect on the positives: Even if the day didn’t go as planned, take time to reflect on the positives and the things that made you happy. Focus on the moments that brought you joy, and celebrate those instead of dwelling on what went wrong.
- Be grateful: Remember that Mother’s Day is about showing gratitude and appreciation for the mother figures in our lives. Even if the day didn’t go as planned, be grateful for the love and support you receive from your family and loved ones.
By communicating your expectations for your Mother’s Day celebration, planning ahead, taking control, reflecting on the positives, and being grateful, you can help ensure that next Mother’s Day is a happy and fulfilling celebration that lives up to your expectations. At the end of the day, forgive and let it go. “Forgiveness is simply an extension of love”